tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4746284939226419300.post5531119349288212962..comments2022-04-27T13:46:18.435-07:00Comments on Living Polyamory: piece on "open relationships" in psychology magazineLeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00194525738172521006noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4746284939226419300.post-23315006162621098622012-03-01T12:10:06.873-08:002012-03-01T12:10:06.873-08:00Check this link out:
http://zhurnal.lib.ru/j/john_...Check this link out:<br />http://zhurnal.lib.ru/j/john_l/swing1.shtml<br /> Science agrees with you. Nearly 2/3 of "swingers" (admittedly this is somewhat different from what you're describing) feel happier with their relationship after accepting non-monogamous lifestyles. This link was listed by Google as a "scholarly article".<br /> Polyamory might be even better than you suggest. To quote you, "spend some time reinforcing yours; after all ... you need to be good at having and maintaining ONE relationship before you can hope of having and maintaining MORE THAN ONE." While this stands to reason as good advice, statistical evidence suggests that openness could benefit a failing relationship anyway.<br /> This blog post was very helpful and informative. I find the views expressed very pragmatic and well thought out. I think it could use more references, like this one, to back up it's arguments, and bring polyamory further into public view.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4746284939226419300.post-50813841065327012812011-11-20T11:48:49.976-08:002011-11-20T11:48:49.976-08:00Thanks for writing this. I happen to have a spous...Thanks for writing this. I happen to have a spouse and two lovers who I adore. We enrich each other's lives differently. While there are moments of jealousy it comes from having to make time commitments to each relationship, not from a sense of being cheated on. You have to commit to the love for as long as you have it, and then be willing to let things move on if the relationship has run its course. In the end, my primary love relationship is primary because it is supportive. Good luck :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4746284939226419300.post-70512419361322826732010-11-22T18:01:24.632-08:002010-11-22T18:01:24.632-08:00Thanks for writing this. Too often, critiques of o...Thanks for writing this. Too often, critiques of open relationships are told from a monogamy centered point of view. As a person who has experienced being poly, I find the criticism of the secondary "threatening" the primary relationship kind of amusing. People need to get on board with the idea that a lasting relationship has little to do with monogamous sexual fidelity, and everything to do with compatibility, hard work, good communication, sacrifice, compassion, sympathy, understanding, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4746284939226419300.post-73235752848379508132010-10-15T19:44:30.911-07:002010-10-15T19:44:30.911-07:00I can't multi-task basic things like holding a...I can't multi-task basic things like holding a cup of coffee and texting, so I couldn't fathom trying to be in multiple loving relationships. Too much drama for this bro.<br /><br />Best of luck for the rest of you! I find this a fascinating subject.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com